– National Geographic launched a new show they’re calling “Bachelors Abroad”. It follows men who are going on tours with A Foreign Affair. You don’t need to watch it – that’s why I’m here.
I’ve been involved in media for a number of years now. Following the launch of my book I was on 42 radio programs. We were on The TODAY Show with Matt Lauer. We had a cable show feature our family. The same themes continue to come up – it’s how the media likes to portray us – AND THEY’RE WRONG!
Like clockwork you can expect that those in the media who have a distaste for our industry will see global romance through the following lens . . .
- Men are pictured by our haters as odd, strange and weird who make dogs look intelligent
- Women who are beautiful, but motivated to leave for a better life and not for love
- They will make it seem impossible for sincere people to connect
The show followed three “Bachelors” as they got ready and then attended their AFA tours. Joe Gregory is a 51 year old police officer. The opening scene shows him telling his four daughters that he’s heading for Ukraine to look for his wife. They react with concern, but then relent to supporting their dad. Late we find out that this was his third tour. OK, so they staged a little bit of that. He was a likable guy and everyone wanted him to win.
The second Bachelor Abroad was Bill Williams, a short heavy-set man in his 60′s who had been married to a Russian woman before and then she left him. He had little personality and kept talking with the ladies about his ex-wife. He was also scammed, but John Adams just told him he was being too nice. It was this guy’s third AFA tour as well. The show didn’t make it look like he had a chance, and, sure enough, he went home empty-handed again.
The third Bachelor Abroad was Bob Ray, also in his 60′s. Bob works for A Foreign Affair as a tour guide on a regular basis, but he was set up to pose as the third dater. But Bob was not shown as someone serious about looking for a life-partner. He just seems to really enjoy the energy of the experience. Yes, he was another plant, but he wasn’t really a great example of an international dater either.
One obvious issue with the AFA format seemed to be the quick movement from city to city, which became even more pronounced in the span of a single show. Our favorite guy, Joe, made a wonderful connection with a woman in the first city. Everyone could sense the chemistry. But he has to leave with the group the next day and we never hear from her again. John Adams tells us, “Joe needs to meet a lot of women and so I’m going to make sure he’s on that bus.” There was a part of us that hurt for the guy.
In the end, the winner seemed to be Joe, but their idea of winning was that Joe has some phone numbers and Skype ID’s to follow up with once he got back home. John gave his explanation to the audience at the end and simply said, “You have to keep going back and going back until you find that special person.”
I just wanted to reach out to anyone who saw this and let them know – “It doesn’t have to be like this”.
Although it’s painful for me to watch, I will be vigilant and keep you informed on how we are portrayed in the media so you don’t have to.
New addition! We’ve added a new site to help answer men’s questions that are arising because of this show. You can see it at http://www.BachelorsAbroadTV.com. Yes, it’s the same content as on our Ultimate Match series, but guys searching for Bachelors Abroad may find this site before ours so I felt it was a good thing to do. I really want them to get the best information possible on the true stories of global romance, which is found right here!