– National Geographic launched a new show they’re calling “Bachelors Abroad”. It follows men who are going on tours to find romance overseas.
I’ve been involved in media for a number of years now. Following the launch of my book I was on 42 radio programs. We were on The TODAY Show with Matt Lauer. We had a cable show feature our family. The same themes continue to come up – it’s how the media likes to portray us – and they’re wrong in most every instance.
Like clockwork you can expect that those in the media who have a distaste for our industry will see global romance through the following lens . . .
- Men are often displayed as bitter toward women in their own country as the reason they look overseas
- Women who are beautiful, but motivated to leave for a better life and not for love
- They will make it seem impossible for sincere people to connect
I just wanted to reach out to anyone who saw this and let them know – “It doesn’t have to be like this”. But good news doesn’t sell.
When we saw the casting call on Craigslist for the Dr. Phil Show they are preparing on the topic of “Mail Order Brides”, we called in and asked if we could give a testimony in support of good international couples. We were told that they weren’t looking for good stories – just those who have had major drama.
I’m sure this won’t be the last time there are media portrayals of “Mail Order Brides”. The message they want to deliver is that the only people who want to look overseas are bitter men and the women they find are only after their money or green cards.
To date, the only examples we’ve seen of honest portrayals of sincere men and women pursuing international marriage was on “Our America with Lisa Ling” and in the “Mail Order Brides” episode of Secret Lives of Women on WeTV. Those were rare media exceptions, but very welcome.
The truth is this; there are more than 55,000 applications for K-1 Fiance visas every year by US citizens requesting to marry foreign nationals. Among those there is a reported divorce rate that is less than 20%. The vast majority of these international married couples are still married today and very happy, but you’re not going to see that very often in the media. We wish they would.