Tips from Mark’s Inbox
I’ve had some great questions posed to me in emails and often the conversations are interesting enough to share.
Got a question you’d like to ask? Send it to: Mark@DreamConnections.com
Does She Expect to Live in a Big City?
I just got offered a new position at my company and ill have work in a small town: pop. 3,000. I’m thinking I should move to a bigger city to make my future Ukrainian wife happy, but that would mean an hour commute to my new position.
Do most women prefer to live in a bigger city (since Nikolaev has a population over 300,000)? Would it be a hard transition for her? I just want to make the right choice not only for me but also for her. Look forward to your thoughts.
It really depends on the layout of your small town and how close the next largest city is. If your small town is centered around a quaint downtown area where you can live close to (so she can walk to the market or meet someone for coffee) then you’re fine. You can always do things out of town on the weekends. Just set up a good life for the both of you. These aren’t like American women so you don’t need to assume she’s looking for a big city. She’s looking to find her match.Just don’t make her feel isolated while you’re at work and she’ll be looking forward to you coming home at the end of the day.
The time to really discuss this with her is when you’re having those “What If” conversations on your second or third date after both of you feel there is chemistry between you. Don’t try to pre-qualify a date with this question before she feels like you guys could even be a fit.
How do I start – how can I meet the girls on your site?
Ive looked through your home page and I want to learn how this works? . . for example . . can I see the women who are on your site? . . when and how do I set up my profile? . .
What we do is very personalized. When you put down a deposit toward a tour you’ll receive a profile form to complete. We then ask you to select 20 ladies from our database that are closest to what you’re looking for and then schedule a Skype appointment with Anna. She’ll get a sense of what you’re looking for and then take your profile and present it to the ladies to invite them to our events to meet you.
Until you’re ready to think about going, the profiles are really just ‘view only’.
Is Love Even Possible Anymore?
I have been hurt so many times i getting tried of trusting anyone out
there. I was dating a woman from Canada who used me again for the last
time. I come from good family, good career seems all i find is women
looking for my money. Please help
In my book I shared similar stories from my own dating experience. I described the common attitudes of dating women in the US like this, “They seem to convey an attitude that says, “Hey, I’ve already got a good job and drive a nice car – what else are you bringing to the table?” And thus they layout their priorities and we just find it repulsive.
The reason that smart, professional men are looking overseas is to find women with an entirely different world view. I’m confident you’ll find what you’re looking for in Ukraine. They see the value of men, family, and relationships as more valuable than the materialism that seems to dominate the value system in the West.
If you haven’t done so already, I hope you’re able to watch that second video in the Ultimate Match video course. It covers the differences between the women here and abroad. If not, just sign up at http://www.UltimateMatchVideoSeries.com
What Are My Chances of Meeting a Lady from the Website?
What is the likelihood of meeting a lady who has a profile on your
Thanks for the question. When we start working with a client who will be joining a Quest Tour we ask him to select 20 profiles that he’s drawn to out of our database of ladies. Anna then sets up a Skype call to review these with him and get to understand more about what he’s hoping to find.
Anna will then contact the ladies, plus others she feels would be a good fit, and invites them to attend the events on his Quest Tour. Every lady who attends has been personally contacted and screened and invited. She will have a name badge waiting for her with her photo on it. No one attends our events who was not invited.
To directly answer your question, about 60% of the ladies you’d meet on your Quest Tour you will recognize from our database. The other 40% were either personally known to Anna or one of our staff, or simply didn’t want to have their profiles made public.
Aren’t they All Scammers?
it’s a great pity that 9 out 10 ukrainian women are not legit now.
they are either scammers, money grabbers (gold-diggers), opportunists, time-wasters, uneducated and lazy. What a pity.
it has really changed since the good old days some 10 years ago.
I don’t know how you operate a legimate business there. It’s impossible unless all your ladies have had criminal checks on a regular basis, personal checks by your staff two or three times each year, removal of offenders (instantly), taking reports of the men seriously etc etc.
Most of the men who find us have already spent considerable time with other dating websites and come to the same conclusion. ”It’s all a scam”, they say. In fact, I’m going to further expose one tomorrow night on my Webinar.
However, it’s an absolutely unfair statement to say that 9 out of 10 Ukrainian women are not legit and here’s why. Between all of the dating sites, from AFA, AnastasiaDate, Dream Marriage, Elena’s Models, and the rest, there are probably 30,000 profiles online. However, if you’ve seen my Webinar on how the industry works
, you realize that most of them rarely interact with the men but local agency translators correspond on their behalf. In many instances, the only time most of these women are even contacted is when a guy is actually coming to town and then they show her all of the correspondence that had been exchanged with the man ahead of time.
Most of them would hope to find a good guy and are disappointed by the tours and local agencies. About 20% of the women in those 30,000 profiles work at some level to make some money from it. About 5% of that 30,000 are professionals who work for the local agencies translating letters.
However, there are nearly 25 million women in Ukraine – approximately 10 million in the 20 to 25 age range. Most of them are completely unaware of what goes on at AFA or any other agency and have never considered signing up with one or even aware given it serious thought. They aren’t looking for foreign men or thinking about ever leaving their country.
So what makes the difference with our model? How can we introduce 12 men to 75 Ukrainian women at our most recent Quest Tour and not one of them ask any of the men for a dime?
It comes back to the basics – you have to have someone in Ukraine you trust to speak with the women and only make introductions with ones they believe are there for the right reasons. What we do, similar to what you suggested, is check their ID within 2 weeks of our events and interview them again to make sure nothing changed since we were last in contact with them. The information has to be that fresh.
There are many specific things we do to find and interview the ladies to try to assure that we have sincere women at our events for our men to meet. But beyond the advanced work, you’re using your own instincts because your first meeting is in person and not online. You also have a personal assistant/dedicated translator working for you by your side through the entire experience. She’ll tell you immediately if she senses anything manipulative or insincere. No other company offers these things. We ARE different – and our track record backs that up.
I do appreciate where you’re coming from – nearly all of our customers have been there and shared the same concerns. But, in the end, they were all impressed that we over-delivered on the experience we describe.
Let me know how we can help you on your quest.